A Worried Friend (WF) of mine has a 30-year-old friend whose condition, what little is being revealed about it anyway, sounds grave indeed. But the young patient is "handling it" in her own way...which means flying to Europe for mysterious treatments, visiting shamans and generally avoiding Western medicine, including chemotherapy.
Now, the fact that she has to avoid chemotherapy would indicate to most people that she's got cancer, but when WF says the 'C' word she gets shushed by other friends.
Everyone is sending around emails asking their circle of friends to pray for the young patient, and to send healing energy her way. As WF said: "I'd ask you to pray, give me healing energy and drive me to the doctor!
Of course, in the next breath WF is talking about how she believes that illness is related to a person's emotional state...that those who get and don't recover from cancer are probably unhappy or pessimistic or, in her young friend's case, in denial.
Don't these two perspectives seem at war within the same person? They do, a little, to me.